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February 22, 2012, 12:15 pm

My husband has been blessed with the opportunity to reunite with his 30 year old daughter who was adopted by her mother's husband at 8 years old. Long story made short, E's mother developed breast cancer when E was 8 years old. Through much deception on my husband's ex-wife's part she was able to...

February 22, 2012, 12:10 pm

My husband has been blessed with the opportunity to reunite with his 30 year old daughter who was adopted by her mother's husband at 8 years old. Long story made short, E's mother developed breast cancer when E was 8 years old. Through much deception on my husband's ex-wife's part she was able to...

February 21, 2012, 10:05 pm

thanks! This was helpful...especially knowing how it worked for your specific situation Llise. Id love to hear how others hospital experience was for the them... I adapt easily to changes in the plan, so hopefully she will feel comfortable enough to voice her needs/wants.

February 21, 2012, 8:49 pm

You probably triggered some really deep emotional thoughts in her. Give her some time. There are some things that are just never comfortable for people to talk about. My first mom refuses contact with me at all because it is too painful. Unless we experience it, and I have, there is no way as...

February 21, 2012, 8:49 pm

I am sorry. Hopefully she will respond soon. if you had an agreement with her this is not far. Try to calm your heart and her silence does not mean that your baby is not on good hands. Adoptive parents also go to some emotional hard times and she may be wondering how to write for you, what to say,...

February 21, 2012, 8:15 pm

Hi all, What is the first thing that you would look for on adoptive parents profiles while making an adoption plan to your child? Religion, race, financial, appearance, letter, photos....or would you go by that "click" on your heart? Thanks and much love!

February 21, 2012, 7:44 pm

So many questions can be answered and relationships not damaged if you say and truly mean " I have some hard questions I would like to ask you, and I will still care about you and want to be with you no matter what the answers are". That is how I would start. Good luck.

February 21, 2012, 7:40 pm

I am going to answer your question as openly as I can. I definately hoped my daughter would contact me as an adult. I hoped she would tell me her life as an adopted child was great and hoped to give her information and form some type of family relationship. I never thought I would be in the mother...

February 21, 2012, 3:59 pm

I don't think it's good thing too ignore person that care you. Girls Bedding

February 20, 2012, 7:56 pm

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February 20, 2012, 3:53 pm

So sorry you have had this happen to you. I tried for the past 13 years to have a relationship with no success. Sometimes you just have to accept the reality no matter how much it hurts.

February 20, 2012, 12:51 am

Yes I have to agree with CaddoRose,Bio parents always seem to blame the county.The ones that don't blame CPS, usually try hard,work there plan and get there kids back.

February 19, 2012, 8:32 pm

Thank you for sharing. Letting yourself experience your feelings (rage, sadness, grief, etc) is the healthiest way to work through them so you can move on. I'm glad that you have been able to work through your rage and have come out the other side a healthier persom. Thank you too for...

February 19, 2012, 7:34 pm

I had to find out early. I couldn't wait because the not knowing was constantly on my mind and distracted me. Growing up was tough but it is even tougher when you don't know who you are. Go through the agency and leave contact info and medical information. There is not enough info here for anyone...